A couple of years ago I created a website for homeschoolers. On this site there is a page where I discussed being a homeschool mom and teacher. I talked about what was important to me as a mom and as an educator of my children. If you are considering homeschooling or homeschool, I think it is important to understand the roles of being a mom and a teacher and how those roles can complement each other but also how there can be times when you have to be a teacher and not a mom and vice versa.
Homeschool Mom or Homeschool Teacher?
My original thoughts on this were that it is difficult to separate the mom from the teacher-so I didn’t. In a way, I guess that is still true. I am always a mom and with that I am always teaching my children. Am I strictly teaching academic subjects? No, but I am still teaching them.
As a home educator, careful planning and consideration is often put into curriculum choices or to which subjects will be taught and how they will be taught. However, I think the greatest lessons that can be taught to our children are beyond the scope of a curriculum.
Homeschool moms spend so much time with their children that it can become a big part of their identity. This is not necessarily bad or good. There is a healthy balance and sometimes it is hard to reach that balance while juggling school and tasks and being a mom. It is important to take care of ourselves and keep in touch with who we are as individuals. Carve out time for a hobby or do something you enjoy on a regular basis, if possible.
Why is this important? It goes back to the lessons we are teaching our children. One thing I want to teach my children is that everyone is unique, has their own talents and gifts and is an important part of this world, our communities and in our lives and is deserving of respect, love and acceptance. How can I teach this to my children if on a daily basis I am not giving time, love and respect to their teacher/mom and her needs as an individual?
There is a fine line between being a homeschool teacher as opposed to being a homeschool mom. The teacher is responsible for providing an education as mandated by state and country laws. Yet generally as a homeschool teacher you may also be the mom. Where I have seen this be a problem is where there might be a conflict of interests. For example, a teacher may give an exam to test the student’s comprehension or mastery of a subject while the mom may want them to get a good grade. So the mom might stand behind the student and say things like, “Are you sure you want to put that? Or don’t you remember what we talked about yesterday?”
For those who are tempted to do this let me suggest a couple of things. First, you won’t always be there to help them. Second, by making mistakes they have an opportunity to learn from their mistakes. By learning from their mistakes they also learn how to become problem solvers. Problem solvers are needed and can become leaders in this world. As a mom, I want my children to be leaders and problem solvers.
Teacher and Mom-Final Thoughts
As a mom and an educator, what do I want my children to learn? What I want my children to learn is what I struggle to learn and effectively do, myself. That is how to be a “Force for Good” in this world. I want them to love themselves and others, to forgive, to hope, to pray, to believe in good, to be a positive influence, to look for and act on truth, to learn from their mistakes and to see the good that is everywhere. Most importantly, I want them to learn these things and then teach them to others.