Quite frequently you’ll hear romantic lyrics on the radio that say things like “I can’t live without you” or “I only live for you,” and similar verses with likeminded themes. The bottom line of these songs is in a real sense, the worship of one human being by another. I’m not taking a stand against poetry and romantic songs, but I am trying to point out to you the deadly mistake that all of us as human beings are prone to make. That mistake is elevating a person to the status of a god. This dynamic takes place in all kinds of relationships, but particularly in romantic ones. It is a dangerous way to approach any relationship because no human being can possibly live up to the expectations of being a god. One person places all of their hopes for happiness, fulfillment, and contentment in the hands of another human being.
You know from your own life, or the lives of those close to you, what happens in this situation. When the relationship starts to experience some strain the person doing the human worship will be crushed with disappointment. This pattern of going from romantic partner to romantic partner desperately searching for the “magical one” is not rooted in a healthy spirituality. Only the true God of the universe can possibly meet our soul’s need for connection to something wonderful, something beyond us, and something all loving. It isn’t a something we are yearning; for it is someone, namely God. According to the Christian faith, we experience human relationships at their best only when they are rooted in the acknowledgment of God as the ultimate relationship.
Sometimes you’ll hear Christians say that God should be the number one priority in your life, followed by your family, and then you’re other commitments. I’d agree with this because the tendency for human beings to worship idols, an idol being anything other than God, is mammoth and has been a problem for people since Biblical times. However, I don’t think the idea of God as the number one priority adequately expresses the idea of Christian spirituality for human living. The prevailing human perspective on this issue is that as human beings our complete wellness looks like a large pie. We have several different slices that add up to our total humanity and wellness: there is physical health slice, a family health slice, an emotional health slice, and even a religion health slice and so on. In order to be healthy and whole as human beings we need to have all of our slices of the pie in good shape. Make sense?
This is not the divine perspective on what is required for human beings to be healthy and whole. Instead of limiting spirituality and religion to one slice of the pie, faith in Jesus Christ is placed in the center of the pie and every other area of life is flavored, is saturated, and colored by this commitment. The same applies to our relationships. It’s not that God is merely number one on our relationship list. It’s rather that we center all of our relationships in our commitment to God. So the Christian life always involves pondering what does it mean to be a Christ centered parent, a Christ centered friend, a Christ centered employee, or a Christ centered spouse?