In spite of being well aware that no one can please everyone, I am still shocked out of silence that people would dare criticize Prince William’s Choice in engagement rings. Apparently some people believe that his mother’s legacy is being disturbed.
Not many people will not know Princes Dianna and her tumultuous marriage with Prince Charles, future king of Great Britain. In case you have forgotten, during their marriage, Charles was continuing a long time affair with current wife Camilla Bowels. During that time, Dianna face great scrutiny over things such as her appearance and behaviors, until she broke free from various psychological difficulties finally asking for, ad receiving, the most controversial divorce in history, royal or otherwise.
During all this, not only were the British Royal family able to continue the “integrity” of their continued reign, most likely through the efforts of Dianna and her darling boys, but Dianna also took on some of the more difficult world-wide issues, such as mines left-over from various skirmishes still covered for children to find. Never did Dianna, through propaganda for or against her, give the impression of a “bad mother”, even when in the midst of depression.
So now one of her boys have grown into manhood; another future king of England. He is man enough, not only to choose a culturally acceptable bride, but seems to have done so with the cares of his heart as well as his country. This care is not just for his lady-love, but for the mother he remembers fondly.
It’s not possible to have been alive and not have been aware of that first fairy tale wedding, even if you were not a royals follower. Being fascinated by characters who affected history, I keep a side eye on those characters as the happen within my life time as well, so, though I have not sought it out, I have been aware of Young William’s pending nuptials. I did not meet his mother, but I remember her well; like so many she impacted my life.
Maybe it is because of her great impact of the mother that causes some people to criticize the son. They are angry by the memories they have associated with “That Ring”.
Really?! I know that certain positions make specific individuals part of something greater than themselves, was Dianna not a mother before she was our Princess? Wasn’t that the whole point of her fighting to break form the royal family; to be a better influence over her sons? Maybe we were not reading the same books and articles, but my impression was, it finally came down to the boys, not the abuse she had personally suffered.
So when I see that ring, probably like Prince William, I see memories too. No, not all of them are good, but they are all great. It took great strength for one individual to even stand against generations of traditions, much less to win. It took incredible grace to maintain calm in the face of public enemies, abroad and from home. It took substantial love to tolerate events for as long as she did, while she found her true place in the world.
You see that ring, which is causing controversy for some, for others is one of the greatest symbols of our time, much as the woman who wore it was one of the greatest individuals. Ultimately, it does not matter what it symbolizes to us, rather we are subject to the wearer or not.
Let it be understood that there are certain responsibilities of a royal. They are not allowed to be “normal” people by virtue of birth or marriage. In addition to whatever actual governmental duties they may actually be assigned, it is their responsibility to the people that so many forget.
But it is not their responsibility to do whatever their people ask them. They are not politicians, they are monarchy. The responsibility to people, all people with today’s world-view, is to behave in such a way as to set a good example for others. Not to be perfect, but to be appropriate.
Sometimes that means joining your unit when they are called to active duty instead of conforming to a protected status. Sometimes it is trying to make a marriage work when everyone in the world knows why it will fail. Sometimes it is choosing to give your mother’s ring to the girl you intend to make your wife.
I raise a glass to William, the once and future king; May all your decisions be born of love and respect, carried out in grace and strength, and be viewed with cautious understanding. The world is not waiting to see what kind of king of Britain you were taught to be, but we see the king of world culture that you are.