Do you suffer from bad self esteem? Do you beat yourself up and put yourself down constantly? You are not alone in this, as there are many people who have bad self esteem. But there is good news. Bad self esteem CAN be built up to good self esteem! It may take a little time, and it may even take a little work, but it CAN be done.
The key to building up your self esteem is to learn to love yourself. This can be done with some self esteem self help. One thing you can do with helping your self esteem is to make a few lists.
Here are five lists that you can make for this self esteem self help activity. Four of these lists include great things about yourself, while the last one includes the things you can improve. But in the end, they can all help you out.
List #1: Your Talents.
Everyone is good at something, so make a list of what you are good at. This can range from…
– Performing, such as singing and dancing.
– Art, such as drawing, painting, and sculpting.
– Computers and internet, such as web design, blogging, and computer graphics.
– Fashion, such as putting on make-up and styling hair.
– Riding a bike, skateboard, or roller-skates.
– Playing sports.
– Taking photos and videos.
– Working with children and animals.
The possibilities are endless! This can include studying or working at your place of employment. If it is something you are good at doing, then list it! List then all! This way you can go back and realize that everyone has something to offer the world, and you are not an exception.
List #2: Your Good Qualities.
Make a list of all of your good qualities. This list should include ALL of your good qualities, not just a few of them. There is a range of good qualities you can include, from giving to charities and volunteering to work with animals, children, or the elderly.
Your good qualities can also include the aspects of your personality you like. This includes being friendly, considerate, getting along with everyone, loving, caring, a great listener, good with advice, smart, and so on. List them all and remind yourself of how good you really are!
List #3: Your Accomplishments.
The next list you should make for your self esteem self help activity is a list of all of your accomplishments. It does not matter who you are or how old you are, everyone has accomplished something! Babies learn to crawl, toddlers learn to walk, children learn to tie their shoes, teenagers learn to drive. Those DO count as accomplishments.
You can list your school accomplishments. This can range from getting a good grade on an assignment, getting a specific award, extra curricular activities (sports, band, computers, and so on), extra credit projects you have completed, science projects, finishing your homework in a good amount of time, passing a course, graduation, beginning high school or college, etc.
Employment accomplishments can be listed as well. Have you helped out a co-worker or customer lately? Did you have a good day at work? Did you complete what needed to be done? Do you love your job? Even loving your job can be a great accomplishment!
What about your family and social life? Are you good to your family? A loving parent? A wonderful pet owner? Providing and taking care of yourself is a great accomplishment! What about being there for your friends or boyfriend/girlfriend? Just being good to your loved ones can be an accomplishment! There’s also nothing wrong with listing that you finally got up the courage to talk to the one who has been catching your eye, or that you resolved a conflict with someone you care about.
Anything can be listed, from sports and performances, completing a task or project (whether it be cleaning the house or painting a picture), volunteer or charity work, learning something new, working toward a goal, and so on. You may find that you have made more accomplishments than you think. When you are finished, go back and read this list. If you are still feeling bad, re-read it and be proud of what you have done so far in your life, and be ready to do more!
List #4: Features You Like.
Sometimes, the lack of self esteem can come from physical appearance. People like to beat themselves up constantly, by saying things such as “I’m too ugly”, “I’m too fat”, “I’m too skinny”…STOP DOING THAT. Someone somewhere is ready to compliment you. How can you take it seriously if you don’t believe it? Do not be too afraid to list all of the physical features you do like! Do you think you have pretty eyes? Do you like the way you style your hair or put on your makeup? Do you like the way you look in a certain outfit or accessories? Then list it! Instead of sitting there beating yourself up, look at everything you do like! Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and you need to realize that about yourself!
List #5: Improvements You’d Like To Make.
Is there something you have not accomplished yet but want to? Are you tired of your style and appearance? You have choices. You can sit there and put yourself down, or you can do something about it. There is always room for improvement, and we all have something about ourselves we’d like to improve. So make a list of what you would like to improve about you and your life. Think about and see what you can do to make these changes and work towards it. Make sure it is safe and only something that YOU want. This is list is for YOU and not anyone else.
Once you finish making out these five self esteem self help lists, read them and re-read them. Remind yourself of how special you are and how much you have to offer the world, while working on any improvements you would like to make.
When you are feeling down about yourself, use these lists to help remind you of why you should love and respect yourself. As time moves on, you will notice that the insults and put downs towards yourself will decrease, and your self esteem will increase.