A Russian heavyweight weight lifter, Leonid Taranenko, held the world record for free-lifting 499 ½ lbs. He had tried on several occasions to break his own record by lifting 500 lbs. Each attempt had failed until his coach intervened for him. During the world championships, he again had lifted more weight than everyone else in his class and was in first place. Knowing he had nothing to lose on his last lift, he told his coach to put the 499 ½ lbs on the bar confident that he could lift it. Instead, his coach discreetly placed 500 ½ lbs on the bar. Taranenko successfully lifted the weight above his head and created a new world record.
This story so eloquently illustrates how our thoughts about ourselves become beliefs and our beliefs become our mindset and our mindset becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Sometimes these thoughts become so ingrained that we need help to move forward.
Follow the simple technique below to create a deeper awareness of the thoughts that might be keeping you stuck and frustrated.
Step 1: Grab a pen and paper and find a quiet place.
Step 2: Close your eyes and clear your mind of everything except the frustration.
Step 3: Write down the statements you’ve been telling yourself. Perhaps you’ve been saying, “I’ll never make it.” Or maybe you’ve been saying, “The situation will never change.” The key is to write all these statements down as they flood your mind.
Step 4: Label and rate from 1 to 10 each of your feelings and emotions.
Step 5: Next, think back to what kicks off each of these thoughts. Name the events, people, key words, or conversation that tips the first domino.
Step 6: Then ask yourself, “What am I really afraid of.” Are you afraid of failure, losing someone you love, or damaging your reputation?
Step 7: Be a super-sleuth and really investigate why these thoughts dominate your thinking.
Limiting beliefs are usually based in fear and when fear grips the mind, we fail to live life to its uttermost. Creating a deep awareness of limiting beliefs is the first step in being able to overcome these beliefs.