Sex is a very complicated issue, especially in America where sex education is still mostly abstinence only. So we’re left from a very young age listening to the whisper stream as we grow into our sexuality. We wonder what the “average” penis size is, do women like sex too, can she get pregnant if I do X and a number of other things. Fortunately some myths are easier to squash then others are.
First of all, any myth which can be phrased as, “Men/women really like X,” can probably be chalked up to rumor, unless the X is orgasms. The truth is that every man and every woman forms what they like and what turns them on based on their own unique life experiences. Some men may like women with big breasts, others may like women with red hair or trim physiques. Some women may like men with long hair, some like men taller than they are, some like men who are in control, while others like men with glasses or men with beards. Preferences are unique to the individual who has them, but lots of individuals might have similar preferences.
Now, onto the myth of sizes. Now, according to iVillage, black men do have bigger penises then white men, with an average of between six and a half to eight inches in length. White men weighed in at a solid average of six, and Asian men had an average of four and a half to five and a half inches. Now it’s important to remember that these are averages, and that all groups of men will have those who are above average and those who are below average. Of course it’s important that you keep in mind that the vagina, while it can accommodate babies during child birth, the vaginal opening isn’t meant to accommodate more than six to eight inches. So for men who do have larger than average penises, you might be too large for your partner to comfortably fit.
Speaking of the vagina, most women don’t orgasm from straight up penetration. Guys can try as hard as they want, but the facts are that the vagina doesn’t have many nerve endings inside and only about one third of women can orgasm that way. The clitoris on the other hand is quite sensitive, and often neglected by men during the act of sex. So it pays to give the little bud filled with nerve endings some attention during the act itself, in addition to the usual kissing, touching and other activities that occur during the act of sex.
Lastly, and these are some big ones, there are very few guaranteed ways to not get pregnant during unprotected sex. These methods involve never penetrating the vagina, and they include; abstinence, oral sex, anal sex and masturbation. Birth control methods like the pill and condoms have a high effectiveness rate when used properly as well, but there’s still a 1% chance of getting pregnant. Additionally, even if a man pulls out before he ejaculates, there’s a chance there was some seed still deposited in the vagina which could lead to an unwanted pregnancy. Women who have sex on their periods can also get pregnant, particularly towards the end of their cycles. And of course the transfer of infected tissues and fluids if one partner has an STD is much worse without a condom.
“Top 10 Sex Myths,” by Tracey Cox at iVillage
“Sex Myths,” by Anonymous at The Site