The person who is able to speak well before others is at a significant advantage in today’s society. He is respected and admired by his family, his community, and his business associates. He will be asked to speak in public on many occasions, from wedding receptions to office presentations. Effective oral communication is a valuable skill for parents to teach their children, and the lessons should begin in early childhood.
It is important that both parents be good role models. They should make every effort to use appropriate language, to speak slowly and clearly, and to always use correct grammar. If and when the child tries to use baby talk, gently encourage him to pronounce words correctly.
When the child starts school, he will probably bring home inappropriate language he hears on the playground. It is important not to laugh, or show shock. If Junior finds he can get attention by using these words, he’ll repeat them as often as he can. The best strategy is to ignore bad language the first time. If he repeats it, say sternly. “We don’t use words like that in this house.” He’ll soon get the idea.
As the child matures, parents can hone basic communication skills during daily conversations around the dinner table, during the bedtime routine, or whenever a teachable moment presents itself.
Here are some necessary communication skills wise parents will teach their child :
* They will model and insist upon consistent use of the conventional terms of politeness: please, thank you, excuse me, I’m sorry, and May I…?.
* When speaking, it is important to look the person with whom you’re conversing in the eye. Maintaining eye contact shows respect and assures the speaker that you’re listening carefully to what he has to say.
* During a conversation, it’s polite to take turns. Never interrupt when someone else is speaking. When they are finished, you will have a chance to speak.
* Good listening skills are important. After someone has spoken, asking appropriate questions based on the message he has conveyed, will show him that you listened carefully, and that you value the information or opinion he has shared. All the best conversationalists are good listeners.
* Encourage the child to control the volume of his voice. Neither shouting nor whispering is conductive to effective communication indoors.
* Teach him how to enter a conversation politely. He should approach any group of people engaged in discussion smiling, listen to what is being said, and wait until he is addressed directly before speaking.
* He will need to know how to end a conversation politely. “I must go home now because I have a ton of homework to do. It’s been great talking to you.”
* There are non-verbal cues which are bad manners and which may offend a conversational partner, such as checking one’s watch, turning away from the speaker, yawning, and glancing around at the surrounding scenery.
Parents who teach their children to be skilled communicators in today’s world are doing them an important service. At present, and in the future, not all instructions, negotiations or collaboration will be accessible by means of technology. Those who can speak engagingly, clearly, and proficiently before a live audience, large or small, will always be in demand