Life is all about making choices and knowing we have choices empowers us where thoughts of having to do something can put you into bondage. When we do not feel we have a choice and must do something, it not only is limiting but defeating as well. It certainly does not help us towards living a joyful life. If we open our minds, every situation has options; it has choices that give us the freedom to choose the option that will bring the most positive outcome for us.
Anytime you find yourself struggling with a “have to” moment, try to think of at least 2 other courses you could make or more positive reasons for choosing to do a particular thing. For example, I really do not like going to the store, so I may choose to ask my husband to go for me which he is usually quite willing to do, all I have to do is give him a list and enough money to cover the list of items. I may put off going to the store for another day if I really am not in the mood to go. I can also look at it and say I want to go because I love a full pantry of food to cook from in order to feed nourishing and tasty food for my family. I may look at it where when I go, I get to take advantage of their wonderful sales, saving me money by buying the reduced items and I LOVE to save money!
When we limit it to a “have to” option, it is the seed of resentments that will start to grow, choking out everything we have to show gratitude for. As resentments build, we step away from a lifestyle of joy. When we are not joyful, those around us pick up on the feelings of resentment and their moods will shift to match ours. Those we live with and love will rise to meet the vibrations we give off, so if we are angry and resentful, those around us will be as well. Yet if we are happy and joyous, that too is contagious where those around us will be happy and joyous.
Every action we take has infinite options, yet it is up to the person to open their mind for a moment of clarity to see what options they have. The more you practice this, the more choices you will be able to think of. The more choices put you as an active participant in your life, freeing you from the bondage of feeling like a prisoner. Nobody likes to “have to” do things, really examine the “have to’s” in your life. There are always choices, so think of all the available options you have and then choose the one that will bring the most peace and joy for you. Empower yourself by allowing yourself to have choices and take the “have to” out of the equation.