You’ve set a weight goal. You’ve slowly but surely seen your weight whittle down to the weight goal you had in mind. You’re now at the weight you’ve always wanted to be at, so why are you so full of doubt, lacking confidence, and suddenly feeling like, well, crap?
A common occurrence with weight loss is the inability to accept compliments or praise for your hard work at getting your weight down to where you wanted it to be. Every time you see someone tell you how great you look, how thin you look, you immediately begin to wonder, “Was I really that bad before?” You begin to feel guilt for enjoying your new body because you feel that liking yourself now means you never thought you were good enough to begin with.
This is a deep hole you can easily get immersed in. For every comment you hear about your new weight, it can gnaw at you that you never received this type of praise when you were heavier. It’s a daunting feeling to feel in your heart that you wouldn’t be getting so much attention and compliments had you NOT lost weight, leaving you with the false knowledge that when you were heavier, you were insignificant.
This is a trap you can easily avoid, so long as you tell yourself that you lost weight for better health, greater confidence, to prove to yourself that you could attain a goal you had set for yourself, and that even if you remained heavy you would still be the smart, beautiful, unique person that you are. Weight has nothing to do with how great you are. When people compliment you, it’s simply because they see an obvious positive change, and are happy for you. When you were heavier, you were simply the same day-to-day person, and people notice change.
It’s the same concept as dyeing your hair or getting a new shirt. When someone compliments your new necklace or your new shirt, your haircut etc, you don’t automatically assume you looked worse beforehand. You simply accept the praise and feel confident that you made a positive, different change that people would notice and enjoy.
Weight loss is the same thing. When people tell you that you look great, they aren’t telling you that you looked terrible before, they are simply noticing a positive change and letting you know they appreciate it. They’re not telling you that you look better now, or that now you can FINALLY be noticed. They’re simply letting you know, “Hey, great job!”
So the next time someone goes, “Wow, I almost didn’t recognize you!” because you’ve lost weight, remember that they’re not telling you that you are suddenly a person worth noticing, they’re letting you know that you look truly awesome. They likely would have said the same thing had you simply dyed your hair a new color.
Embrace yourself, whatever your size, and take compliments as they come without analyzing them to death. You are the exact same person you were before the weight loss, you are just now more comfortable in your own body. It’s your radiance and happiness that people are likely noticing the most, and they will compliment you as such.
And embrace the person you were before you lost weight. Without understanding how it feels to be heavier than you wanted to be, you wouldn’t know the pride of accomplishing a goal so great. Remember, it was that heavy person who decided to make a change, not the thin you that you are now. That person deserves a lot of recognition and pride.
Be proud of yourself for who you were and who you are now. They are the same person, after all.