It’s called life in the fast lane because nowadays balancing work schedules, school, hobbies, and personal lives makes dating a big challenge for most people living in big cities.
So when it comes to dating and relationships most of us have to plan well in advance to spend some quality time with our loved ones. With so much focus on success in careers and work, many of us have a hard time maintaining relationships because, after all, we are all so busy.
I noticed through my research talking to other couples and through my own personal experience that many couples nowadays are faced with challenges like making time for each other because they are living in different cities, cultural differences, ex-partners from a break-up or divorce, and children from previous relationships. I like to think that these couples are called urban couples. This is fairly a new phenomenon in the dating and relationships category, but if you think that it does not exist, think again because millions of couples are involved in successful urban relationships.
What Is An Urban Couple?
An urban couple is a dynamic couple where two people are in a relationship, yet, they are focused on their own careers, academic goals, and/or running their own business. Most of these young couples range between 24-40 years old and are highly independent individuals.
Urban couples usually live in big cities where life is very demanding and most of their time is devoted to their goals and jobs. They can also come from different ethnic backgrounds and religions. For example, a typical urban couple can be a man who is from African-American descent and his partner can be from Irish descent. Another example could be a Catholic Italian woman with a Jewish-American man. Basically, an urban couple can be an inter-racial, inter-religious, and/or a long distance couple.
Another variation of an urban couple is married singles. According to China Daily.com in “Married singles: new choice for urban couples,” married singles are couples who are married, yet they live in separate cities and maintain their social lives as singles. This kind of marriage is based on independence and self-realization in a relationship.
How Do Urban Couples Work?
It is not easy to be an urban couple and a lot of people probably cannot handle being in such a relationship. As I said before, an urban couple can be a long-distance or business-oriented couple, so the only time they can see each other is on the weekends or on holidays. If you are the kind of person who needs to see your partner everyday or during the work week, then maybe an urban relationship may not be for you.
With the internet being one of the most fastest and convenient way of communication with someone who is not living with you, urban couples use Skype, MSN, and Facebook to communicate daily. Along with daily flights, train and bus departures, more and more urban couples can meet within a few hours, so it can actually work. The unique detail of an urban couple is that they only meet on weekends and/or their meetings are scheduled well in advance.
The Future of Urban Couples in the 21st Century
With life becoming more and more demanding, urban couples are on the rise. If both people are comfortable with living separately at the moment due to career or business reasons, then establishing a set schedule when you would meet is the best thing to do.
However, when an urban couple decides to move in together or get married, the question about where to live becomes an issue? Just like in a long-distance relationship, urban couples have to decide if one person is going to move to their partner’s city. Some things to consider if you are going to move in with your partner are if your career or job can be established in city you are moving to. If you have invested a lot of time and effort into establishing your career in the city you currently live in, then it might be hard to leave it all behind to move to your partner’s city and starting all over again.
There is no doubt, that urban couples have a lot of challenges that might result in a break up or permanent separation. However, urban couples have to be open-minded and be willing to compromise, just like in any relationship, compromising is important when you are planning for the future.
Urban couples or married singles have to enjoy being independent and trust is the main element that needs to be established in this kind of relationship. While urban couples are happy with living their separate lives, planning for the future takes considerable amount of thinking, timing, and compromise on both sides. If compromises can be agreed on, then an urban couple can enjoy much success both professionally and personally.