Christmas is more then six weeks away but gentlemen, it is time to start thinking about Christmas Gifts for the wife. You do not want to be caught picking up lingerie from the floor of a sold out Victoria Secret Store in the last minute, nor do you want to ask her what size she is wearing, when it comes to shoes, socks and what not. You want to get it right this time around. But isn’t it the thought that counts, you asked yourself every season. Well, it’s not. Sometimes even the thought can’t lighten up the mood at the wrong choice of present. Here are some wrong choices.
Lingerie That Doesn’t Fit
Yes, you want to keep the candle going and you might really think that your wife looks sort of like the mannequin in the store, but in reality her body is nothing like that. If you buy it too small, she feels uncomfortable every time she put the thing on. If you buy it too big, she thinks she is too big. Bottom line is if you buy lingerie make sure it fits. And that is even a complicated thing for us to figure out, if the Teddy works and it might take HOURS spending in the dressing room. We don’t just buy it.Some manufactures don’t leave room for boobs but just enough for the waste. Others peaces fit up there, but hang like a bag around the hips. If the wife doesn’t feel and look sexy you might not get what you are hoping for to begin with. Sure, there is a tiny chance you might get it just right, but do you really want to risk that? Heck, if you want to have fun, just use the bows from the unwrapped Christmas Presents and this will do the trick. Don’t buy lingerie.
Any Kind of Clothing
We women are picky. We love to shop. We know which shade of turquoise we like and which shade of purple just don’t look right on us. Blue and blue are just not the same. We chose how long our jackets have to be, in order to hide our love handle or show our best assets. We know which style of jeans to wear to make our legs appear longer and we love to hunt for the best prices. Unless your wife specifically tells you, that she wants a certain article of clothing, it is best to just avoid it. This will save you time standing in the return lines later.
I am talking gloves, scarves, belts, hats, pins, sun glasses…Are you sure your wife likes hats? Has she ever worn one? What material is it made out of? How does it feel? How does it smell? This is the question you are going to have to ask yourself when you shop for that kind of stuff. Some women like leather gloves, others don’t. Some women have long fingers, others have short fingers, some like it snug, and others like to have room. Belts have to fit in the loop of her favorite pants. This is to difficult for you guys to do all this. Sure it wont’ hurt nothing but it will not give you any bonus points either.
You may have found the best deal in the pawnshop or the thrift store. But what seems to be a good deal for you might be terrible for your wife. As a tip anything what can’t be cleaned or fixed is not a good deal. The chances that you find the special long lost item from Jackie Kennedy which earns you Millions is very very rare. If you are going to go shopping for Antiques, take your wife as a special outing, she will enjoy it instead of you going alone trying to find the next big thing.
Home Improvements of Any Kind
Sure, she always wanted the sun room or an extra office space and you finally are having the money and the time to get it done – in the upcoming spring. Well, Christmas is now. There is no instant gratification, no unwrapping nor something she can show around. On top of it will remind her of the upcoming work in order to get it done. We understand those project cost time and money. If this is really what it needs to be, then present her with a card and a box of chocolate. So she can do unwrap something from under the Christmas tree.
We are wives, home keepers, mothers, grandmothers, chauffeurs, employees, cooks. But on Christmas Day we want to be just (Insert Your Name). The present should connect to her inner self and not some role she has in the house hold. A Vacuum Cleaner or an Automatic Shower Cleaner won’t remind her, what draw you to her to begin with or who she is as a person. Cleaning products can go either way. She could feel taken for granted or she could think that you don’t think she cleans good enough and set more expectations. It takes the fire out of most bedrooms. You would be better of buying her lingerie that doesn’t fit. (see above.)
In any case your time and your love is all she wants. Sometimes people, not just guys have trouble expressing it via gift. Picking the right one takes time, effort and thoughts. I am sure she will recognize how much you have thought of her when you picked the gift. And sometimes even the wrong gift can lead to discussions and hopefully to a deeper level of understanding each other.