This article looks at the never-ending battle between men and women trying to understand each other.
“If a man, speaks in the woods and there is no woman around to hear him, is he still wrong?”
If you ask a woman this question, there could be several responses such as; “a woman would have to acknowledge that a man had anything at all to say worth hearing” or “What was he thinking speaking without a woman’s permission”? On the other hand, how about, “He isn’t wrong until a woman says he’s wrong” and the last one, “How did he get to the forest anyway, he must be lost”.
Moreover, since I am a man writing this article, I can only expect that what I write will be incorrect, out of place and off track so in advance I want to say to all my women friends, I’m sorry, please forgive me, what was I thinking, I was wrong, and it will never happen again.
If you ask in the opposite, “If a woman, speaks in the woods and there is no man around to hear her, is she still wrong?” the answer would be simple, “does it make any difference since the man probably wasn’t listening in the first place”.
The age-old war between men and women trying to understand each other is a war that cannot go on forever and the fight for power, being in charge and equality needs to end, if it ever can. If both men and women are going to get along together then both need to recognize three laws of nature, 1) there are things men can do that women cannot, 2) there are things that women can do that men cannot 3) and neither can read the mind of the other. The third law is the one that gets all of us in trouble because we expect the other to know what we are thinking, feeling and know our needs. Communication is a critical key, not expecting the other to know our wishes.
To make relationship work, men and women should also understand that it takes the two together, a man and a woman, to make one complete powerful unit that works in harmony to achieve not only the possible but also the impossible. If you take away one of the components, separate that combination or one alone tries to be both then all you have is an unfinished puzzle, only a part of the equation and an incomplete whole, a frustrated half unable to accomplish, finish or reach the top very well.
Women are most powerful
It should be noted there are still men who would respond to this kind of thinking by saying; “what difference does any of this mean anyway, what was the woman doing out of the kitchen in the first place”. What is even more disheartening is there are still women out there who would agree with that kind of man.
Mentality like this is old school thinking, ignorant thinking at that, and it is this reason why women have advanced at such a fast pace now days. Because of their, “I’ve had enough fighting never give up spirit” women today are more powerful than ever before, and it is apparent that men are being left behind still trying to figure it out, scratching ourselves and standing there with our mouths wide open wondering what happened.
Think about it, females are the most powerful creatures on the face of the planet. To prove my point let us look at history. A man from day one ate the apple for the woman; men have protected the woman, fought each other, dueled to the death and destroyed each other over a woman. Men have murdered, cheated, plotted, planned, and even taken their own lives over her. Wars started where countless lives destroyed and billions of dollars spent and ultimately, men have even denied their God, over a woman. A man will crawl around the world on his hands and knees for the love of his life, his woman, and give up all he knows for her. She is most powerful because men do all of these things which can only mean one thing about women, without a man and his love, she is very much powerless.
Where have real men gone?
Another reason why women have become so powerful is that men have ceased to be real honorable men, which has forced women to take over both roles, especially in the family.
Men are abandoning their wives and children at an astronomical pace, and the family unit destroyed. Men are complaining and whining they are too tired to hunt and provide anymore. They seek for better, hoping the grass is greener on the other side or there is a younger prettier face out there who will love them, for who they really are…yeah right.
These are false hopes and dreams and if a man cowardly leaves his family because of these reasons to seek for a better life, there will come a day when that man will see how wrong he was. He will realize he gave up genuine love from his wife and innocent love from his children and sadly, that love seldom can be reclaimed back again.
Science has proven that men and women do think differently. Therefore, we see that men and women will always disagree and the war between them trying to understand each other continues. However, it has been said, “Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward together in the same direction”. (Antoine de Saint-Exupery).
“We may disagree and we may battle but the love we have for each other is infinite and together, side by side we will fight this war, and win”. (Scott Hallock)
(Acknowledgement) My life time friend, Michael Coombs, who assisted me in writing, “Semi-Trucks: Sharing the Road with Gentle Giants” quoted this statement about, if a man speaks in the woods, which gave me the idea to write this article, so I would like to acknowledge him for his humor, wisdom and inspiration.