So you’re wife or husband is in their mid twenties and they just aren’t in the mood as much as they used to be. Don’t jump the gun and automatically think that they’re getting jiggy with someone else. There are all sorts of reasons that they may have a lowered sex drive that have nothing to do with an affair.
I’m not saying that guys don’t suffer from this too but this is an issue with most women. Guys, if your wife isn’t feeling emotionally satisfied by you, it will likely be difficult for her to open up sexually with you. As men we commonly end up taking our lady for granted. We get busy with work, being a parent and things like that and sometimes, all that love and attention that we used to give our wife takes a back burner. If that’s the case guys, get back to the basics and emotionally reconnect with your wife. If you do, you’ll likely see your wife’s libido return.
Now as far as men go. Guys get bored easy. Sex should be something that we look forward to with you. That doesn’t mean that you need to bring another woman in the bed for a threesome. However, if after five years, the two of you have only had sex in the missionary position, your husband may be getting a bit bored. Also, if for the first two years, you as his wife were a little porn star in bed with him and now all of the sudden, there is no more oral sex, no more multiple positions, etc, he may be getting bored. If your husband knows exactly how an evening of sex with you is going to be, what does he have to look forward to? Where women sexually connect on more on an emotional level, men sexually connect more on a physical level. Keep the love making sessions interesting and fun.
Now when you read that word “hormones” you think of women. However,, I’m going to talk more about men and this. OK ladies, your husband is loaded with a male hormone called testosterone. As a woman, you have testosterone in you too but your husband has a lot more than you. Testosterone is the reason why he can grow and beard and a woman cannot. Testosterone is the reason why most men if they are not having sex, they are masturbating. Testosterone is the reason why your husband falls asleep after orgasm. If your man has no sex drive and has no issues with erectile dysfunction, he may have a low level of testosterone. You’ll find if a man is getting testosterone shots, his fat will turn into muscle and his sex drive will go up sharply. If you think this may be an issue with your husband, have him speak to his doctor about it.
A woman’s reproductive system is much more complicated than a man’s. Think of the man and woman’s reproductive system like a machine. The more parts to a a machine, the more chance of something going wrong. There are a lot of gynecological reasons why a woman’s libido can go south. Ladies, don’t be afraid to speak with your Gynecologist about why you have a low libido.
Certain medications can lower libido in both males and females. Check out the side effects on all of the medications that you’re on. If it says, “sexual changes” assume that it lowers your libido. Very few medications actually increase libido. If you find that you’re on a medication that decreases your libido, consult your doctor and see if there is an alternative medicine or treatment for your ailment.
When our husband or wife is no longer in the mood for sex, it can have a negative effect on a relationship. Just remember, that it may not be their fault. If you have the problem, don’t be afraid to bring it up to your doctor or a therapist. If your relationship is important to you, it should be no problem discussing things like this with your doctor. Good luck.