To be in a loving relationship requires patience, compromise, trust and understanding. Every person who is in a relationship will agree that their partner probably has at least one habit that they wish they could stop. These are often small things that are irksome, but not deal breakers. But what about those habits which are upsetting? It’s one thing to leave toenails all over the bathroom floor, but quite another when their behaviour is hurtful. There are some things that should never be tolerated in a relationship – let’s take a look at some of them.
Things that should never be tolerated in a relationship
Arguments in relationships are inevitable. In fact, arguments in relationships can often be healthy. But when threats start to creep in, it’s a sure sign that something is wrong. Things said in the heat of the moment can quickly be distinguished from a genuine threat by body language and tone. If you feel afraid at any point during an argument, it’s time to step away – this is doubly true if any violence is involved. Threatening behaviour should never, ever be tolerated in a relationship.
Feelings about this will vary from couple to couple. Many people are fine with a little harmless flirting here and there, but if your partner is spending a lot of time flirting, it can quickly make you feel worthless. The first step in dealing with this is to explain how you feel. However, if there is no change in the behaviour it is a good indication that you’re with the wrong person. Someone worthy of you will always respect your feelings.
Cheating should never be tolerated in a relationship if you are not in an open relationship. Finding out your partner is having a fling with someone else is one of the most hurtful things, and even if they tell you it won’t happen again, is it really wise to trust someone who has hurt you before? Painful as break-ups are, sometimes it is better to call it quits to save yourself from further heartbreak.
In times when money is tight, wasting money is completely unacceptable. Assuming both partners have a job, there is nothing wrong with occasional treats but with bills to pay it is not okay to be frivolous with your cash. Overspending should never be tolerated in a relationship because living with debts is not a good way to live.
When two people are in a committed relationship, there should be a healthy level of trust. If your partner always asks you where you’ve been, calls you to check on you, gets angry when you want to go out with your friends and questions you over again to see if you “slip up”, you should think about ending things. This kind of behavior is very damaging to a relationship and possessive people usually find it very hard to change.
If you are unsure about which things should not be tolerated in a relationship, judge by the way you feel. If something your partner is doing is upsetting, frightening or otherwise troubling you, you should have a long hard think about whether or not you need to be in the relationship.