Holidays can be a fun time with family and friends. When you’ve added a special someone to your life knowing when to bring them home or leave them behind can be a hard choice to make. Once the choice is made, it’s not only you that might be a little nervous. There are things that you can do to make the trip home less stressful and more dun for both of you.
Making the decision to bring home your new boyfriend or girlfriend can be a hard choice. When making the decision you need to consider if the new boyfriend or girlfriend is someone you’re serious about. After all, you’re introducing them to your parents and family, that’s a big step in a relationship. If you’re not serious about each other or just casually dating, you should go home alone with plans to meet up with your boyfriend or girlfriend later.
When you’ve decided to take your new boyfriend or girlfriend home, you need to prepare them for your family. This means you need to tell them if someone in your family is racist, very religious, alcoholic, eating disorder or things like that. You should tell your new boyfriend or girlfriend how your family normally reacts or handles such people. Also, this is a good time to decide as a couple, you’ll handle uncomfortable situations. Is there a look, a word or hand squeeze that is your sign that things are uncomfortable and it’s time to remove yourselves from the situation.
When telling your boyfriend or girlfriend about your family, be sure to tell them any traditions or rituals your family has. Also tell them if there’s any special seating arrangements, as in the parents sit at the head of the table or young children eat in a special area.
If you’re bringing a hostess gift or dish to the celebration, make sure it’s a couple choice. Include your boyfriend or girlfriend, so they don’t feel like you did it all and it’s from you, leaving them feeling a bit weird about it.
Before you leave for your destination, discuss any sleeping arrangements. Understand that your boyfriend or girlfriend may not want to spend the night in your parents or families home. Arrangements should be made before you leave, that way you’re both clear about the plans.
Once you’ve arrived at the family gathering or celebration, remember you’ve been there before and know everyone. Don’t forget to take time an introduce your boyfriend or girlfriend.
While visiting your family can be fun, don’t forget to take a moment to orientate your boyfriend or girlfriend. Make sure they know where to place your jackets and the restroom is.
Remember your boyfriend or girlfriend is your guest. Make an effort to include them in conversations and family activities. If you’re going to get a beverage, ask if they want one. Again, they don’t know where it is and they may not feel comfortable just going in someone else’s refrigerator.
Always keep in mind your boyfriend or girlfriend’s feelings. If they look uncomfortable or a little isolated, it might be a good time to take a walk or drive, then come back to the gathering.
When the gathering is over take some time to relax as a couple. Make your own holiday memories together as a couple, with a walk or a quiet dinner together. Those are the memories that will live on for a lifetime.