Any couple who has gone through infertility knows what it can do to your relationship. Instead of enjoying the time spent with your partner you are constantly thinking about if the latest round of IVF worked or trying to time sex for conception. Not only does this take all of the fun out of a relationship, it also can take a toll on even the happiest of couples. Everything you do together becomes just another step to reaching that ultimate goal of getting pregnant. The reason why you want to have a baby with your partner is forgotten and the only thing you can remember is the ovulation cycle for that month and when your next appointment with the Reproductive Endocrinologist is. Here are some ways to relax and reconnect with your partner while going through this very difficult time.
Don’t let infertility treatments consume your life
The first thing to remember while going through infertility treatments is to not let them consume your life. Yes, getting pregnant and having a child with the person you love is very important, but you must remember the reasons why you both want to have a child. Make a list of all the reasons why you love your partner and have them do the same. It will become something that you can go back to every time you forget.
Schedule fertility free date night
So schedule a date night where you do something that you used to love doing together as a couple, way before any needles and calendars were involved. If you use to go to the beach together then schedule a day at the beach. This is a time to get to know each other again and make sure you don’t break the most important rule; no talk about anything having to do with fertility or babies!
Make your treatments fun
If your partner has to constantly get shots in order to stimulate her ovaries for reproduction, reward her for all that she is doing for the relationship. After she goes through a procedure or gets her daily stimulating shots, surprise her with a candlelight dinner or roses. Anything that you think she will enjoy gets for her. It will be much appreciated!
If your partner is the one giving the shots, make sure to write him a thank you note for helping you with the process. Even though this isn’t what you imagined when you use to think about making your baby together, realize that this is still a process that you both are going through together. Make sure your partner knows that you appreciate him and all the help that he is to you!
The most important thing when going through infertility is to talk. Make sure that your partner knows how you’re feeling and vice versa. Being able to tell each other what is bothering you or what your fears are is an important tool to use to get through this tough time. The more you talk the more you can understand your partner’s feelings. Talking will help to bring you both back closer together.
So remember that your relationship came first before any baby ever did or ever will. Remember that your love is the most important thing and you will be able to get through this time together.