Having a baby changes your entire life. The world is no longer about you. It’s about you and the baby. For many women this becomes a difficult transition. The transition of becoming a new mom can create feelings of anxiety, depression and hopelessness. For some moms the negative feelings become so extreme that thoughts of suicide even enter their minds. If this would be the case then professional help such as a therapist would be in order. For the rest of the moms there are things you can do to help yourself to feel happy after a new baby. The following are some tips:
Make special time for yourself. A new baby will take a lot of your time. You have to feed it, change the baby’s diapers, bathe the baby, put it down for a nap and keep the baby company for most of time that it is awake. Despite all your baby responsibilities it’s important each day to take time for yourself even if it’s just for an hour. Have a friend; husband, babysitter or other family members watch the baby. Then so something that will truly make you feel happy. For example, after I had my first baby I enjoyed taking time to create things with polymer clay. I found it fun and relaxing. Some possible ideas for you are exercise at the gym, go for a walk, meet a friend for lunch, get a massage, watch a movie or take a fun class.
Change your negative attitude. What we say to ourselves has an impact on how we feel. If you are always telling yourself, “I hate being a new mom. I am sick and tired of taking care of my baby. I am tired.” Then you will feel unhappy. Just face the fact that you are a new mom with the fabulous opportunity to raise a wonderful human being. Tell yourself things that will make you feel happy. For example, “I love being a new mom. I am a good mom who can handle my responsibilities.” At first you may not believe the positive statements you are making but by repeating them everyday it will naturally become a part of your value system and who you are. The end result for you will be a feeling of happiness.
Get some sleep. A lack of sleep can do great damage to our emotional and physical well-being. Many moms are tempted to do things such as wash the dishes or do the laundry when their baby is sleeping but I say put those things aside. Come up with a creative way of doing the chores when your baby is awake. Instead get some sleep. Taking care of a baby is exhausting and if you don’t get your rest you will feel anxious and depressed.
Join a mommy group. I bet there are a ton of mommy groups in your area. You can easily find a list of mommy groups by googling mommy groups and the name of your city. Mommy groups are great because it will help prevent you from social isolation and feelings of depression. It’s also a great opportunity to meet other moms who share the same feelings and responsibilities. Mommy groups also do many fun things such as going to the park, movies and out to lunch, which can be great for you and the baby.
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