While you may be excited at the prospect of moving to a new house or a faraway city, chances are your teen is less than thrilled at the prospect. Teen resentment can build at the mere thought of leaving their friends and familiar school behind. What can parents do to help teens adjust to the changes moving to a new school can bring? Here are some tips that can help your teen adjust to a new school.
Talk to Your Teen
Don’t keep a possible move a secret from your teen. Discuss with your child when you will be moving and the reasons behind the move. Be honest and forthright with them. The first step in helping your teen adjust to a new school is to address their concerns, resentment, anger, fears and pain. Never dismiss your teen’s feelings. Ask them to voice their concerns and feelings. Assure them that their feelings are normal and that they can stay in touch with their old friends through visits, social media, phone calls, cards and letters.
Allow Adjustment Time
Teens need time to process their feelings stemming from a move. Helping your teen adjust to a new school means giving them the time they need to adequately deal with the changes they have gone through. If your teen is still finding it difficult to adjust to a new school after six months, they may need professional help.
Involve Your Teen in the Process
While teens can’t make the ultimate decision to move or not, there are many things they can be involved in regarding a move to a new school. Involve teens in the process of finding their new school, school registration, touring the school, meeting teachers and attending an orientation.
Encourage Your Teen
Moving to new school is extremely difficult for most teens. Be as encouraging and positive with them as you can. Point out to them the many changes they have been through before in their life and how they made it through. Talk about how your teen adjusted to the first day at their old school. What fears and concerns did they have? How did they make it through? Keep encouraging them that they can make it through this.
Get Teens Involved in Their New School
Does your teen play a sport or have a hobby that they are passionate about? Help them to connect with like minded teens by getting involved in groups or clubs at their new school. Helping your teen get involved and make new friends will help them to adjust to their new school more quickly. Having friends is an important part of your teen’s development and can be a key factor in how well they ultimately adjust to their new school.
Stick to a Routine
Make sure that your home environment, even though you may have recently moved, is as stable as it can be for your teen. A stable home life can provide your teen with a solid foundation that will enable them to adjust to a new school more easily. Also make sure your teen sticks to a reasonable sleep routine. Getting enough sleep may not seem like it would be important to helping your teen adjust to a new school, but a tired teen will not be as capable of dealing with the changes a new school situation can bring.
Find a Peer Mentor
Having an established student at your teen’s new school show them the ropes, answer questions and just connect with them is a great way to help your teen adjust to a new school. Most middle and high schools already have mentoring programs in place. Just ask the principal or school counselor.
Keep In Touch
Encourage teens to keep in touch with their old friends and classmates. Maintaining their established friendships is important to teens and can even help open them up to making friends at their new school. Keeping in touch is especially important if your teen will be attending a different school in the same city.
Moving to a Different City
If your teen will be attending a new school in a different city, make as many visits as you can to the new city before school begins. Visit the school, scope out parks and recreation areas, eat out in a restaurant and just spend time there. If it is possible, move into your new house well before school starts. This will give your teen a chance to adjust to their new home first and then tackle their new school, relieving some of their stress and anxiety.
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