The perfect quote that comes to mind for this topic is, “You have to kiss alot of frogs before you find a prince”. This quote is silly, but at the same time very true. If you are like I was a couple of years ago, you are tired of being with all of the wrong people, you are tired of wasting your time with idiots, and finally you just want “the real thing”. Well while the “real thing” is hard to come across, if you look in the right places, have the right mentality, have the confidence, and take the right steps, you will be able to find this wonderful relationship. These are some of the things I will be discussing.
When you think about it, finding an amazing relationship, full of love, passion, and laughter can be hard to come across. Why? Well think about it, there are billions of people in the world, all of these people having different personality’s, different likes, dislikes, different problems, different goals, different wants, and different needs. Do you think a relationship would work well between two people who have none of the above things in common? The answer is probably not. It is impossible to be exactly like some one. However It is probable that the more things you have in common, and the more “chemistry” that two people have the better the relationship will be.
One of the most important things in finding a great relationship is to “weed out the bad,from the good”. For example, you and Joe go out on a first date to a fancy restaurant, if Joe keeps farting, keeps on getting spinach stuck in his teeth, and is over all just repulsive, and arrogant. Is there really any need to continue seeing Joe? The obvious answer is no. Why? One of the most important things you need to realize is that you can not change someone. You might be able to change a few minor things like taking a plate to the kitchen, or remembering to put the toilet seat back down but that is where it stops. Trust me attempting to change a human being to your liking is one of the biggest wastes of time, and one of the largest causes for chronic migraines. However keep in mind, no one is absolutely perfect, everyone has faults, but it’s up to you if you can cope with these faults, or if these faults make you want to jump off a bridge, thats just not healthy.
Another Important thing Is that you need to have confidence and patience. Sometimes It takes awhile to find the person that will change your life, and make it better. Don’t get upset when “it doesn’t work out”, with some loser who wasn’t worth your time. Instead think good riddance, their loss. I know it is hard to think that way, but just think when you find that “special person”, the idiot that treated you wrong will mean nothing to you. When you hear their name you won’t be able to help but laugh. You always have to have confidence in your self. You must love your self, because like it or not you are stuck with yourself for quite awhile. If you expect someone to love you you must love yourself first.
The absolute worst place in my opinion, to look for some one to have a good relationship with is a club, or a bar. There are exceptions i’m sure but most people go to bars for “booty calls” or to get “trashed”. Think about it, what do you think is going through a mans mind before he goes to a bar? Is it, “Oh I bet I’m going to find the future mother of my children here,who my mother will love”? No, that is not what is going through his mind. What is going through his mind is, “I’m going to find a hot babe tonight”, or “I’m going to get trashed with my buds”. This isn’t what you want. While there isn’t a list of places to find someone, I can tell you the places listed above are definite “no no’s”. The place where you find the love of your life could be at a pool, at a restaurant, at a beach, almost anywhere. Please remember to forget about bar’s or club’s.
If someone doesn’t care about your feelings you need to immediately run far, far away. If you truly care about some one their feelings mean everything to you. You don’t want to hurt them, because when you see them hurt, it hurts you. When someone care’s about somebody they want that person to be happy, and they will do anything to make them happy. Remember in the beginning of a relationship, people are on their best behavior. It’s kind of like going to an interview, or something of the sort. A few months in when you have gotten to know them a bit better is when the real them will be unmasked. If bad signs come with in the first few months, that should tell you something.
It can be a lot of work to find an amazing relationship. After all nothing that is worth anything comes easy. However once it comes, you will be happier then you ever thought you could be. You will be happy you went through what you did, because it lead you into the arms of some one special. A person who you love, and who will love you unconditionally. I wish there was some sort of guide I could give to to help people find what I have found, but there really isn’t. The things that I have listed are only tips, and things that I have followed to find the love of my life. I wish you the best of luck, remember to always have confidence and love yourself.