There are quite a few key factors to maintain a happy relationship. In order to have a happy relationship, of course you and your partner need to communicate and be close to each other. You have to give and take, there will be the good time’s and the bad time’s, however when you are in a happy relationship the good time’s will always out way the bad.
First off, in my opinion sex plays a major role in a relationship. Just think about it, sex is intimate time, it is bonding time, it feels good, and it brings the two of you closer. Did you also know that sex is a pain reliever, and is ten times more effective then Valium? Sorry lady’s, once your partner reads this you can no longer make the excuse of your head hurting. Sex is also a great exercise, did you know that if you have intercourse three times a week,in one year you will have burned around 7,500 calories? 7,500 calories is equal to taking a 75 mile jog, that’s a pretty good work out. Sex also relieves stress, sex causes the brain to release endorphins. These endorphins put you in a state of euphoria and happiness, it makes you forget about the terrible day you had. Also studies have shown that having sex regularly may add 3-8 years to your life, as well as keeping your skin healthy and young looking. When you turn down your partner for sex It may make them wonder if they are doing something wrong, and it may make them feel insecure. If your partner feels this way, that’s not healthy. The moral of the story is, if you don’t feel like having intercourse one night, and your partner is “really in the mood”, try to “tough it out”. Not only is it extremely good for your health but, your partner won’t be left upset in a cold shower.
Find things to do together, pick out something that you would both like to do and find the time to do this! It may seem like it would be kind of difficult to find something that you both like, since men and women usually have different interests. However there are so many things to do, for example if you two have a dog take your dog to a park, sit on the lawn have some snacks, watch the sunset together and relax. I have recently picked up playing the video game Halo with my partner, (we all know how men love to play video games). I used to resent the Xbox because it would take time away from us. The simple fix was playing it with him,and having fun together.There are several things you can do, be creative, the two of you will come up with something. This is another form of bonding time, which is extremely important in a relationship.
No matter what always tell each other how you feel. You should never leave anything unsaid. For example if your partner said something that you didn’t agree with, or hurt your feelings don’t hold it in. Why? Because when you don’t talk about things that upset you, these things will just add up and pretty soon your going to bust and it won’t be pretty. It is much better to calmly talk to your partner if they have done something to upset you. It will be much better for the two of you to work through it verse one day you exploding on your partner and them having no idea what they did wrong. How would they know they did anything wrong? After all your partner isn’t psychic they can’t know something is upsetting you if you don’t tell them. Communication is another key role in a relationship, you must always communicate.
In a relationship you can’t be selfish, you have to tend to the other person’s wants and needs as best you can and often put your self in their shoes. If you can’t emotionally be there for your partner, then you don’t belong in a relationship. For example, Susie comes home from a terrible day at work, her boss yelled at her, and she had a flat tire. Of course Susie is going to act a bit “tiffy”. You need to understand that Susie needs your emotional support to calm her down, and she needs you to be there for her. If you don’t pay any mind to Susie she will think that you really don’t care about her feelings, or about her. Trust me that won’t go over very well. Always put yourself in your partners shoes, ask yourself what type of treatment you would want if you were upset, and give your partner that treatment.
Last but definitely not least, never lie to your partner. Lying is one of the worse things you can do in a relationship, it doesn’t matter if it’s a white lie, a green lie, or a pink lie, no lie is acceptable. If you have to lie to your partner about going somewhere or doing something, that should tell you you probably shouldn’t do whatever it is that you plan on doing. If you truly love your partner you should never lie to them. Once a person is caught in a lie it makes it extremely difficult to trust that person again. This can lead to a large down fall in a relationship, perhaps the relationship even ending. Trust is a key factor in a relationship, if you don’t trust your partner you can’t possibly have a good relationship with them. Before you do something, you should always ask your self, “What if he/she did what I am about to do, how would that make me feel? As i have mentioned earlier, it is always good to put yourself in your partners shoes.