The decision to adopt a child is never an easy one. If you are considering adopting a child and you already have children it is important to include your present children in on the decision. It can be hard for a family to have another person in it. When a new person is in the family things change and change can be difficult.
Talk to your kids and let them know what you are thinking. Then listen to what your children tell you and really let there opinions count. Your children live in your house and their thoughts and feelings should count. If your child is against adopting another child you may not want to do it. After all a new child in the family is a big decision that should be shared. Your present children may feel threatened by a new child in the home.
Your child may be happy about having another child in the family. Then go ahead with your plans to adopt and keep your present child included on what is happening. Your child will feel like they are a part of this decision and they will be more accepting of the new child.
Once the new child comes to live with you your family will need to make changes and everyone in the family will have to go through them. You need to sit down with your children and talk about how life is going to be in your home so everyone will know what to expect. You will need to listen to all the family members so you know their feelings on the changes.
Communication is very important when you are considering adopting a child. Everyone in the family should be ok with the adoption. If the child you are adopting has special needs there is more that should be considered. Talking about adopting is a must and you need to involve the whole family in the decision. The more you communicate with each other the smoother the adoption will be.
Before you adopt you need to do some research and share what you learn with your family. You can look on the net for information. Reading books is another great way to learn about adopting before you do it. There are some good books you can read with your children about adopting too. For a list of books you can read about adoption you can go on the net to http://www.creatingafamily.org/adoption/suggestedbooks/suggestedbkssibling.html.