The Holidays are upon us and during this special time of year, miracles happen. What a perfect time to make amends with a family member, a loved one or friend and put it all behind you.
A friend of mine tells the story about her father and older brother who played the lottery for years. Her younger brother had already won the lottery and hit the jackpot for over $3 million dollars. After that, her father and brother bought a ticket every time it played playing the same special numbers each time. Sometimes the son would buy the ticket and other times the father would buy it never missing a day buying a ticket. One night the father and son were home watching on television the State lottery commission picking the winning numbers, the jackpot was $15 million dollars. They both could not believe it when they saw their special numbers appear one by one. When the final number was about to be picked the father and son waited on the edge of their seats holding their breath hugging each other tightly. The last number came up and they both leaped into the air with joy! “We won, we won $15 million dollars!” they both cried at the top of their lungs, it was hard to believe they won so much money. After a few short minutes of celebration, a thick calm filled the room, a sickening stillness came over the both of them and they stared at each other for what seemed like an eternity. The father broke the silence by asking the son, “you did buy the lottery ticket, didn’t you?” To which the son replied, “No dad, I thought you bought it”.
Sadly, neither the father nor the son had bought that winning ticket that day both believing the other had bought it. That was many years ago and to this day they still blame each other for losing millions of dollars and they have not seen or spoken to each other since. Over money, a father and son are willing go to their graves angry, mad and with unforgiving hearts.
I wish there was a happy conclusion to that story and perhaps one day there will be. What is clear to most people is how silly it is that a thing like money could come between a father and son. What about you, is there a silly thing coming between you and a loved one?
It is time to reconcile
It is a time to give a good try to set things straight. You can break the ice by sending a card with a few words of love and kindness, which will give your loved one time to think. Follow up with a small gift, a token of your love, friendship and appreciation and gesture for a truce. Have hope that by doing this that it will open the doors to both of you talking again.
You can write a letter and express your heart felt desire to make things right, clear the slate and start fresh. A telephone call sometimes is all it takes to break down those walls when two voices begin to talk again. Be honest and sincere, relive fond memories and talk about old times. Eventually the laughter will start and before you know it, you are friends again.
You may have to accept the possibility that your friend or loved one may not want to reconcile now but still it is OK to try and another day will come. Consider the fact that you may never fix the relationship but in your heart, you will know you gave your best.
We all know that life is too short. We also know that time need not be wasted on things that do not matter, but the things that matter most, are what counts and love, family and friendship are those things.
This is the perfect season, use this time of year as the time to set things straight. Nothing touches the heart more than to hear the words, “I’m sorry”.