Singing at weddings can be a joy or a disaster. Watching two loves come together, and being a part of that brings allot of joy. What if you, the singer ruin this couples wedding? I’m about to share with you a few of my experiences, of singing at weddings.
Singing at your own wedding?
I’ve often asked myself If I have any regrets. Regrets about what you say? Regrets about singing at my own wedding. The answer to that is no. As you can imagine, my husband and I were shaking as we sang the duet we had been so well prepared to sing.
It was a hot summers day, and we were all trying to stay cool in the air conditioned Church. Everything was going fairly well when it finally came time for us to sing. We picked up the microphone, faced each other as we had rehearsed, waited for the piano music, and began to sing. It was not long until we both realized the sound system had been turned off by someone.
This seemed like a disaster but no one caught on to our gestures or looks we were making as we nervously decided to go on with it, even though the microphone was dead.
What would have been a disaster at any other event, turned out fine, as the whole place was so quiet you could hear a pin drop!
It was the most memorable thing we did other than say “I do”, and we both are very glad we decided to be the wedding singers at our own wedding.
To this day family members say with fond memories, ” do you remember that song you say?”, which song? ” you know the one where you were facing each other…?” Oh yea that song, and once again we are happily reminded of how we began our lives. It is a testament to our dedication, and perseverance that still remains part of our family creed.
So if you are thinking about singing at your own wedding, I say go for it. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to be perfect, It’s your day, have fun, and make memories!
A wedding disaster:
My husband does not remember this mess up to this day, but oh boy I do! Let me begin at the beginning.
A friendly couple we knew had decided to get married. We were asked to sing, and everything was at the last minute, since they barely spent any time between getting engaged,and getting married.
We were asked to sing with background music a song I had never heard before. I kept listening to the tape trying to memorize it, and get it in my head but it just wasn’t coming together for me.
My husband on the other hand was doing just fine. He did not put quite so much pressure on himself to memorize on such short notice, but I wanted to do my best and felt I should sing without the words in front of me.
To complicate matters, the bride had ideas of when she wanted us to sing, which was before she walked down the isle. That was fine by me, but other members of the wedding party thought they should be at the alter when we sang.
The decision had been made, against the brides wishes as we silently watched, and listened. I being concerned for the feelings of the bride found it even harder to memorize my lines.
Then the big day came. I was so hopeful, and felt way too positive that I would do a good job. My husband had his lines memorized somehow, so , I left my words on a bench and stepped forward to sing. Everything was going great until I looked at the bride. Immediately I began to silently feel bad for her as she stood there , which was something she did not wish to do, while we sang.
Immediately I lost all the words that were barely in my brain anyway. I had panic wave over me. “where are the words?” I couldn’t even bring myself to remember where I had sat the lyrics. Turning red, watching the faces as those in attendance smiled, and tried to mouth the words to me I waited for the chorus.
My only salvation was the chorus. Finally it was all over. How I felt like crawling under a bench.
The bride and groom were somewhat gracious about it, She did sing me the song, as it was a song on the radio just not a station I had been used to listening to. Oh well, I laugh about it now but I sure learned a lesson early, be discrete when you sing, be out of the way, and by all means have your words in front of you.
Those at a wedding are there to hear the music not necessarily see it. Last but not least , memorize the words. Hear it performed on the radio instead of a karaoke CD.
Life does go on:
After this we received other offers to sing at weddings, and I personally was glad to have all of that behind me. Luckily there have been no further traumatizing moments. Others have happily said their vows with no hitches from me. Thank goodness!!