As with all new relationships, we get to learn the ins and outs of our new partner. However, sometimes not all personality traits are favorable. Someone who is “clingy” or “needy” is someone who bombards you early on in a relationship with emails, texts, Facebook messages or wall posts or constant phone calls. In the beginning of the relationship it may feel good to have someone who appreciates you so much, however, as time progresses, the “needy” attitude is unattractive and a huge turnoff.
You Want Time With Your Friends But…
The classic example of a needy relationship stems from your partner always wanting to hang out and spend time, no matter the personal cost. For guys who embrace this, we often ditch our friends, which is a warning sign of an unhealthy relationship. Someone who is clingy will get jealous of your time with your friends, regardless of their gender. If you are in this situation get, out immediately or have a talk with your partner about how you need space. If you alienate your friends during the relationship, they will most likely not be there for you during the breakup.
Constant Text Messages, Email and Facebook Messages
Younger couples have embraced texting as a great mode of communication, which became popular with the advent of phones that feature a full QWERTY keyboard. The occasional text message asking how your day is going, or if you want to hang out later is perfectly acceptable; however, constant text messages telling your partner how much you care for them gets annoying very fast. If you have something important to say, say it in person, it means more and will get a favorable response. The same rule applies for emails and Facebook messages. Guys love to hear from their partner, it makes them feel more intimate and appreciative, but we shy away when the messages become overwhelming.
Constant Phone Calls
Phone calls every hour just to “check in” are, or more annoying than constant text messages. Men constantly have a lot of stuff on their plate, including work, hanging out with friends, fantasy sports and of course, the relationship. We like to have our free time to ourselves without being interrupted every hour. Men prefer to see their girlfriend in person rather than on the phone, for some reason many of us do not like long phone calls. Ladies, we will appreciate you more if you make the time we do have special, rather than bombarding us with phone calls just to see how we are doing. However, we do not mind the occasional daily call, but just do not overdo it.