Take a few minutes and reflect upon what you desire. At first you may think it’s having a better job, having more money, maybe having a bigger house and better car. Look deeper within yourself. What is it that your heart and soul desires? What do you need emotionally and spiritually? It’s best if you reflect on this when you have a quiet moment.
If you are like me, some of the wishes that come to mind are to feel loved and appreciated. To feel my life has a purpose and direction. To feel connected to the light of Jesus.
My assumption is you have some of the same desires. I believe our soul is always at home with its creator. Even though Jesus is with us, the soul is always yearning to be home completely with Jesus. There’s this constant struggle with the soul which yearns to be with Jesus, and we feel uneasy when disconnected from the one who gave us life.
The need to feel loved is a basic need of us all. But it isn’t necessarily the kind of love the movies portray. Yes, we need physical intimacy, but that’s only one kind of love. There is the marvelous love only Jesus can give. There are not sufficient words to describe the love He gives us. The closest I can come is saying it’s like my soul dancing for joy when I’m experiencing Jesus’ love. It’s deep and has such a lasting impression. It’s very intimate and personal. When I experience this love I’m compelled to show this love to others. It’s something I want to do actively and something I need to do! It’s so powerful and joyful that I want others to know how wonderful it is.
That leads me another kind of love. The love we give others. Incredible peace comes over us when we help someone feel better about themselves and we show them how much they are loved. To connect with another person in such a personal and meaningful manner is truly a gift from God. As humans we were meant to feel love and give love to others. It’s what we were created for. That’s why it’s a basic desire.
We all need to feel that our life has meaning and a purpose. That is one reason so many people feel depressed if they lose their job. They see that as one of the main functions of life. One of their main identities. Yet, there is a larger plan. One which exceeds any role we assume or title we give ourselves, or that others give us. This is the gift of being a beloved child of God. What greater purpose in life. No matter what circumstance we experience, we will always be a beloved child of God. The light of God is within us. The Light of our heavenly father gives us a dignity and courage beyond all understanding. I use the title Father, but since God is in all of us, I don’t believe that God is female or male. But for purposes of clarity, I will use the word Father. That is a word we can relate to.
Sometimes our ego gets in our way, and we think we can everything ourselves. That we don’t need support. We might even think we don’t need God. Eventually, we find out that one is a very lonely number. We do need to use the skills given us and to take care of ourselves, but we also need God’s help in knowing how to stay on our spiritual path and when to ask for help. Usually successes are the cause of team effort. If we believe we can do everything on our own, we ignore the basic desire of feeling loved and giving love. We eventually become unhappy and alone. Many of us know people who have this lifestyle and lack peace and joy. I have found that people who live life in this way do not feel loved or loveable.
We have explored what our deepest desire is and have found most people also wish to feel love and give love. We also learned that we need to feel our life has meaning and purpose. We found that our ego can get in the way and how that hinders the desire to feel loved. In the next chapter, we will look at ourselves with eyes of love.
Think of the times you experienced feeling loved. What did it feel like? How did the person help you to feel loved? Think of times you have given love. What was the person’s reaction? Were they able to accept it? If so, how did it feel when your love was accepted?