The Holy Bible is a book that every, or nearly, every Christian turns to when attempting to point out the wrongs of modern sexual intercourse and sexual freedom. There are lines in the Bible that condemn homosexual sex (specifically between two men), lines that condemn rape and lines that condemn pulling out so that you don’t impregnate the woman you’re having sex with. However other topics, such as oral sex, anal sex (between a man and a woman) and even masturbation have all been cast under the same, sinful bedsheet when in fact the Bible meant these and many other sexual acts to be enjoyed when the “time is ripe” according to the Song of Solomon.
Now, it’s important to get a few facts straight. Many people are taught, whether by parents or by spiritual leaders, that the body and sexual acts it’s capable of are all inherently wicked and sinful and that anyone who engages in them or who enjoys their own or someone else’s body is committing sinful acts. Throw that idea right out of your head. According to the Bible, all things made by the hand of the divine are good and right, including your body and the sexual acts it’s capable of. However, like any well made machine it has to be used for the proper purpose. The Bible does define “righteous” sex as taking place between a man and a woman. The arguments that causes aside, this is just what the book says in print. The book also implies that sex should take place between a man and a woman who are recognized by their community, implying that the proper time for sex and sexual acts is once two people are married.
All right, so let’s say that you’re happily married and you want to make sure that your bedroom activities are following the plan laid out in the Bible; what exactly is off limits to you? Honestly… not a whole lot if you look at the text. For instance, the Bible supports oral sex in several chapters, including Jesus’s speech about the “living water,” and in a few verses in Song of Solomon that refer to a man being “sweet” to a woman’s taste. Anal sex, which is often confused with Sodomy which refers to anal sex between two men, is also seen as acceptable by the Bible. Lamentations 2:10 refers to a virgin assuming a position common for anal sex, and once more in Song of Solomon anal sex is referenced in a positive, rather than a condemning, light. Even masturbation isn’t condemned if you read between the lines. The section where Onan spills his seed on the ground is when he pulls out of a woman so as not to get her pregnant, something that god told him to do. In both Deuteronomy Chapter 23 and Leviticus Chapter 15 the Bible refers to purification methods that one should undergo after masturbation to cleanse the body of the “emission,” but nowhere is it expressly forbidden.
Let’s not delude ourselves; the sexual acts that cause all of this confusion and outrage among people have existed for centuries. Homosexuality has been around since before the birth of Christ, as has anal sex, oral sex, bondage, sado masochism and almost any other act that people could define as sinful in some way, shape or form. As such, the Bible was written with full knowledge that some of these practices were a widely accepted custom, and that ideas such as birth control and relationship commitment had to be established somehow. Of course, like any religious document written with poetic wording that’s been translated from one base language into several others, the Bible can be interpreted one way or another. What should decide how you perform, and what acts you choose to perform, should be what you feel is right and good (and let’s not forget legal). If that coincides with the Bible, then you have all the more reason to feel that the sex you are having is good, righteous and let’s not forget a proper, spiritual experience.
The quotes and chapters mentioned above come from the website sexinchrist.com. The author reminds readers that, while a holy book might say something, that doesn’t make those statements the law of the land or a legal standing; it is a religious interpretation and nothing more.