Change is inevitable when children arrive and there were so many things that I did not think about until I had a child of my own.
Freedom to do what I want when I want was a commodity. After I became a parent, I soon realized, freedom was to be cherished. You cannot give your children back and be on your merry way. They went everywhere I went and even shopping became a challenge. As my children grew up, my entire life was dictated by their schedules. Football practice, doctors appointments, play dates, the list goes on.
With the loss of freedom also came great responsibility. I now have to feed, cloth and bathe these little people. I also had to keep them safe and healthy. Oh my, what a responsibility it is to keep little fingers from grabbing things they should not and keeping stuff out of the mouth that is not edible.
So, we have freedom and responsibility, but what about finances. Children are expensive! Budgeting took on a whole new concept when I became a parent. I can no longer just grab a burger because I don’t want to cook. Of course, anything for a baby is expensive and a must. I learned quickly to budget for extra groceries, diapers, clothes and whatever else my children need.
My organizational skills quickly became proficient after becoming a parent. This was a key change for safety. It is amazing what a toddler can reach. I had never thought about where I placed something until it went into the mouth of a toddler or I had a very big mess to clean.
One of the best changes, however, is the overwhelming emotion of love. This was an instant change from selfish to selfless. It was easy to give my entire heart away the first time I looked into each of my children’s eyes. I no longer thought of myself and what I wanted to do, but gave all my energy to what would make them happy.
Freedom, responsibility, finances, organization and emotions are only a few of the changes I morphed through after becoming a parent. These are the largest and most important changes I have discovered. I now have three boys and have learned that these are also the most valuable. Given the chance to go back, I would not change the changing.