It’s an age old question. Why do good girls often go for bad boys? Everyone knows a young lady that fits the stereotype of a good girl but she does not go for boys who fit a similar profile. There can be several reasons for this. In a recent conversation with one of my best friends, on this particular topic, three theories came to mind.
They Are A Project
Ladies are naturally maternal and often want to fix everything and cure everyone. Often a young lady may become interested in a seemingly bad boy, then tell herself that her love can turn him away from his smoking, drinking, cheating, gambling, and/or criminal activity. While I am not sure where this idea comes from, at some point young ladies have to come to the realization that they need to choose someone that compliments them, not someone who is a fixer upper.
They Are Perceived As More Masculine
Take a set of identical twins, one who has a reputation for helping old ladies cross the street and one with a reputation for roughing people up and maybe even a brief period in jail. For some young ladies, the latter of the two is automatically more attractive. Although many women have always been in love with Denzel Washington, I know quite a few ladies who did not think Denzel was hot until he played a “bad boy” in Training Day.
Ladies, this attractiveness goes away quickly when your bad boy needs bail money, which leads me to my third theory.
It Taps Into Their Own Dangerous Side
For young ladies that have been “good girls” for most of their lives, they often fantasize about what it would be like to live dangerously just once. The feel like their lives are boring and they are looking for some excitement. Good girls have likely never cut school, stolen anything, smoked, taken a drink, or anything typically associated with
a “bad girl.” Not participating in these things is a success that good girls may not embrace due to the fact that those things are often glamorized on TV and amongst their peers.
A word of caution to the good girl is to be aware of the line between excitement over living on the edge and being smart. A guy who cares about you would not want you to be mixed up in any of the previously mentioned dangerous activity. It is also not wise to get mixed up with a guy who you know is doing things that are not legal. Tapping into your dangerous side is not worth a criminal record.
Whatever the reason for a good girl choosing a bad boy (or a good guy choosing a bad girl) the important thing is to protect yourself from any potential harm. There are some things that are not worth risking. Good girls (and good guys) should embrace their successes in life and understand that there are people younger than them who are watching them and modeling their behavior.
Idea for article from Mrs. Tina Sykes