Divorced, single or recently broken up, the fact is that you are single. Being single is not a bad thing but eventually you do see yourself sharing your life with someone. Maybe you have gone out to bars, been fixed up by well-meaning friends or even joined an online dating service. You might have a few dates with the same guy but it doesn’t go anywhere.
There is someone out there who is right for you. You may or may not believe that but put that thought aside and consider why you haven’t met Mr.Right.
Ask yourself these questions and answer honestly. You may find the key to what is keeping you from having a happy relationship. Hint- that “key” lies within yourself.
Think about the kind of guys you attract. If you are divorced or have been in serious relationships, compare the men you have been with to each other. Are there personality traits that are similar?
Look at each relationship and you may notice a pattern. What was the basis of each relationship? Did it start off slowly or did you jump right in and get serious too fast?
Were there red flags that you ignored during the “honeymoon” phase of the relationship and now can see clearly for the warning signs that they were?
Do you look back and see yourself making too many sacrifices for the sake of keeping peace in the relationship? If so, did the relationship end because you got tired of being a martyr?
Have you settled for whomever seemed to be interested in you and not vice versa? Who made the first move?
Some women subconsciously seem to be attracted to the same kind of man. It doesn’t work but yet they continue to go after the same kind of man again. Whether they think they want to be “taken care of” and wind up with someone who is controlling or borderline abusive or they want someone who will worship them and they wind up with a wimp, it isn’t working.
If it isn’t working, you need to consider why you seek out the same bad relationships over and over again. You need to look at yourself honestly and see why you make these bad choices. Maybe you send out bad vibes and attract the wrong men.
Maybe you didn’t grow up with a strong father figure or the father you had didn’t give you the attention you craved. There are many reasons why women seek out the men that they do. Recognize why and work on fixing it because whatever you are doing is not working! It is time to take a look at you.
Do you know who you are? Are you okay with being alone? A relationship should never define who you are only make who you are even better.
You need to feel comfortable in your own skin. Make no excuses for what you like, what you look like or what you want out of your life. When you meet someone who can appreciate, respect and even love you just the way you are, then you will have a chance at a good relationship.