When I think of this topic, the first quote that come’s to mind is, “It takes two to tango”. When a man is in a monogamous relationship, and he sleep’s with a person that is not his partner, it is cheating. Women who fall victim’s to this, often call the woman their partner fondled with a, “homewrecker”.
You would think that the woman would realize that it isn’t all the “other woman’s” fault. All though it is down right dirty for a woman to knowingly interfere with a man who is in a relationship, it is not all their doing. These women who interfere with men who are in monogamous relationship’s are not magicians. This being said, the man does not have some sort of spell cast upon him to tangle with this woman. It is just as much as the man’s fault as it is the woman’s fault.
When a man cheat’s, many time’s the woman is more angry with the “other woman” then she is with the man. I don’t understand this. You would think that the woman would be more upset with the man, since he is the one she is in a relationship with. The man is the one she is physically and emotionally involved with, not the woman. Instead many time’s it is reversed and the woman is much more concerned and vengeful towards a woman that she doesn’t even know! It is very understandable for a woman to despise the woman that her partner cheated on her with. However it is foolish for some one to solely blame one person when two people are equally involved.
I’m going to use Brad Pitt, Jennifer Aniston, and the lovely Angelina Jolie as an example. All though this event has been more publicized by the media over the years then it should be, it is a great example. Many women who are Jennifer Aniston fan’s call Angelina Jolie a homewrecker. Jennifer Aniston has reportedly called her this as well. Why don’t these people realize that Brad Pitt became attracted to Angelina Jolie, and that he voluntarily involved himself with her. All though Angelina Jolie, in my opinion is the most beautiful woman in the world, I don’t think her beauty come’s with magical seducing powers. Nor do I think she fed him some sort of love potion to make him fall in love with her. It is just as much of his doing as it is hers.
The term “home wrecker” has been around for many generation’s. Music artist’s have even made song’s revolving around the subject. I think when women use this term there may be something more besides anger behind it. I think that it involve’s them not wanting to realize that an individual who they cared so much for betrayed them. They would rather think that it was all a stranger’s fault. Thinking this way, most likely make’s them feel a bit better about what happened. Blaming something on a stranger is much easier then realizing that their partner willingly did something to break their relationship. By writing this article I am in no way trying to justify individual’s who cheat. It is very wrong, and I look down upon it very much. I am merely trying to inform people that when two people do something that is wrong or immoral, it is both of the people’s fault. That is why in law enforcement, if two people engage in something that is illegal they are both held accountable, not only one of them.