There is a video that is getting big hits on YouTube and it is said to be viral. Being viral on the Internet, I am told is a good thing as it means the video is very popular and being watched by thousands. My curiosity got the best of me as I wanted to see what all the twittering and whipping was all about. Nine year old Willow Smith, the daughter of Will and Jada Smith has a music video called “Whip My Hair”.
As the video loaded I thought to myself what an interesting title. I was more perplexed by the picture of young Willow in her royal blue and long braids looking more like a seventeen year old than a nine year old little girl. As the video loaded I was rather disappointed in both the video and the parenting of Will and Jada. Celebrity parents often give their child unusual latitude in things that they do that are not age appropriate and lack taste but Willow’s video was borderline exploitation. The video of Willow made me sad and also alarmed at the influence it might have on otherwise normal, prissy, doll playing, no body art or piercing little girls. The setting was a classroom with coed students and a teacher that appeared to be enjoying the disruption and gyrating in her classroom. There was absolutely nothing about this video that I liked except the shade of blue of Willow’s first outfit.
I can envision the Willow trend: little girls asking their moms to get Willow’s haircut, dress in the unfeminine clothes that she wore in the video and get a between the nose and ear ring or sling. What did being prissy becoming unpopular? When did sugar and spice and everything nice go out of style? I like to see little girls in dresses, knowing how to cross their legs and feeling good about being feminine. Shaving half of your head, wearing a Mohawk and saying none of them whip if like I do is not the picture of the kind of girl I ant my grandson to marry and I doubt if perhaps if it would come even close to the girl that he would choose.
Miley Cyrus AKA Hannah Montana has been a phenomena for a number of years raking in millions of dollars from impressed little girls wanting to be her, dress like her, wear her hair, listen to her music and see her concerts. A physically maturing Cyrus has on more than one occasion shown that she is no longer the innocent Hannah but a maturing emerging adult headed in a not so Hannah direction.
Mothers, grandmothers, aunts and sister must again be the role models for little girls. We must not depend on others to outline the image of what girls should look like and how they should act. Parents must say NO and mean it. Three year-olds should not be telling their parents what they will not wear.
When we as adults turn off the television and shut down the computer and say enough is enough. When we as mothers not are afraid of upsetting little Mollie Sue and parent Mollie Sue with discipline, guidelines and love we will see a change in our daughters. It is human nature not to respect the authority figure that you can manipulate and daughters and sons are manipulating their parents. Advertisers are leading the plot but let us take a pledge to take control. As you walk in your world today, look at the little girls you see and observe how many look and act like little girls. How many are acting more like little boys, how many are dressed and acting older than their years, I say far too many. Where have all the little girls gone, I say we use love and firmness to whip them back into femininity and childhood, but less forego “Whipping Their Hair”.