Previously published in Examiner
Part 3 of the Joint Custody series
Tips to make joint custody work continued
Set up a workable schedule that both parents can meet. Shared custody rights do not have to mean a 50/50 split especially when the child is of school age and uprooting him or her would mean longer traveling time or even the necessity of being enrolled in two different schools. Joint custody might mean that weekends and holidays would work better for some parents or alternate weeks with others. Make a schedule that is amenable to both parents. When parents live very far away from each other, six months with each parent, or school months with one parent and summer with the other might have to be the deciding factor. The point is rigid rules need not be enforced which will only put a strain on the ex couple and the children, better to have room for changes as lifestyle changes require regardless of the court order.Be flexible – Sometimes work, sickness, or other life issues will mean that a decided upon schedule would need to be altered for a certain period of time.
Wherever possible, try not to prevent a child from joining a sport or other activity because that parent does not live close enough to the location of the event or activity.
Work as a team, all decisions about the child’s welfare should be decided together and a helpful solution or compromise is obtained with the child’s best interest at heart; not for the convenience of one parent over the other.
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